Marriage used to be about spending the rest of your life with that one person you can't be without. The one you share laughs with, get through the struggles with and simply the person you love. Now a days people are settling down because they are expecting a child or they feel like they will never find someone later in their life who can love them better so they decide to settle down now.
Ladies and gentlemen don't settle down with just anybody. Don't waste precious time with somebody who's probably only going to be there for a while. When you speed things up, things don't last long. You can go full speed on the expressway but eventually you'll run out of fuel.
Commitment is a huge and an important thing in life. It's not like just any relationship, you just can't brake up and walk away so easily. Lawyers have to be involved and by the time you know it, you're going to be on your second marriage while you're still paying for your divorce from your first marriage.
Planning a wedding is stressful but a beautiful thing all us girls dream of doing one day. We want our dream wedding, and of course we want the perfect relationship as well. But think about it, look at your partner and ask yourself; "Do I see myself with this person for the rest of my life?" "Will I be happy with all his/her flaws?" Think of all the little things that can cause you to leave years later. Marriages can last 1 year, 7 years some even 20 years and then they realize they can't do it anymore. They weren't ready to settle down or at least they weren't really in love with the person.
I'm sure you do not want to waste your time with someone who is going to walk out of your life 5 years down the road. Don't rush things. Things that are rushed never last. Get to know that person first and I don't just mean his/her family and flaws but culture, values and his/her goals.
Also, you can't make a person fall in love with you. You simply can't. Don't settle down with the first person you blindly fall in love with, not because you met his/her family and certainly not because you've been together for 4 years. You are and will fall in love so many times, that's the beauty of love, it never gives up. And just like love, you should never give up on yourself.
In my last relationship, I was in love, but I know we are not for each other. And I'm totally cool with it because I have learned new things about myself since. Like how I actually like donuts and how much animals mean to me. Also, I've been planning my next charity event for the foster center I've been volunteering at for the past few years, and if God willing by next December I'll graduate college. There's so many other things I'm taking my life with, other than work and school. I realize I don't need a man in my life other than my Pops, at least not now. I'm building myself. This doesn't mean I'm grateful my past relationship did not work out because my ex sure did help me understand I can do anything in life if I believe and work hard and I wouldn't be able to thank him enough for that. So I'm happy he is is living his own life and I'm living mine, the way we want it too. It doesn't change who he is and who I am. We're two different souls finding ourselves and our paths.
So again, don't settle down with just anyone, because you think you're in love. Research shows, people who marry at a young age (25 years or younger) are more likely to get a divorce than those who wait. So don't feel pressured to settle down because all your friends are or your family is assisting you should. Plus you haven't finish exploring what this earth has to offer, what if one day you visit Italy and you meet the one there. Stay open minded!
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