Be True to Yourself

"When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief." -Lyanla Vanzant 

Putting others before you may seem so easy to you, we where raised to respect and help others. But, sometimes we need to put ourselves before others, it not selfishness and wrong to do so. Actually we must first help ourselves before we can help someone else, and when we do so, the outcome is beyond better.

You know you are doing a great thing by planning your best friends wedding but, are you happy doing it? You shouldn't have said yes when you actually meant to say no. You are putting your needs and wants aside for the happiness of another. And when you do so, you are showing you need someone else's approval to make yourself feel approved in order to feel whole.

Don't be afraid to say "no". Speak the truth, do not be afraid to "betray" others so you can be true to yourself. Don't lie to yourself just so those around you can be happy. Cinderella's step-mother never did anything for her, so why should she? Cinderella lived an unhappy life until she met her prince charming. Put your needs and wants before others, do what makes you happy.

You have your own path to walk, if you keep choosing what others say, you will never be truly happy and at peace. You can achieve wonderful things if you live your life in a way that makes sense to you. When you put yourself first and make your own descions, you will become more happy and you learn to better yourself which helps you better service those around you.

Lyanla Vanzant said, "Whats in the cup is yours and what comes out of the cup is theirs" In other words, when you're true to yourself and truly happy you can help those around you be true to themselves. You can't always give, give, give; you need receive in order to give. Find happiness and you will be able to give happiness.

5 Tips to Help YOU Put Yourself Before Others

#1 Find Your Purpose
Write down what you want for yourself. Then analyze how you are going to get there, what you need and what you don't.

#2 Balance
Yin/Yang, Positive/Negative, Light/Dark, without one there can't be another. If you are always giving and not giving back to yourself, there will always be something missing.

#3 You are Important
Yes you are important. Cut yourself some slack, do what makes you happy, you are the controller of your path.

#4 Listen to Your Heart
Listen to your desires, your needs, and to what your heart is telling you. If you feel something isn't right, you are not giving yourself enough.

#5 Put yourself First
Live for you. Stop living for other people and things. Don't ever stop moving towards the path you know you must travel.

"It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul." -Oriah Mountain Dreamer

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